Ask Ellie: Ex-wife’s behaviour raises issues about adult kiddies

Ask Ellie: Ex-wife’s behaviour raises issues about adult kiddies

August 15, 2020 06:00 AM

Dear Ellie: I’m a man that is divorced had been married for 25 years and had two young ones, now inside their late-20s.

After having young ones, my ex-wife displayed terrible swift changes in moods, extreme stubbornness, and unreasonable, manipulative, managing, dependent behaviour.

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She couldn’t keep a working work nor be friends with a lot of people. Every problem became a disagreement. She ended up being never ever sorry for her behaviour, never forgave nor forgot.

Fundamentally, just exactly just what looked like a poor psychotic break toward me personally as well as other nearest and dearest, caused it to be impossible in my situation to remain.

My young ones had simply finished college and university. The divorce proceedings had been really bitter (her). We attempted difficult to be reasonable and reasonable. There’s been no contact since we separated.

Unfortuitously, my kiddies likewise have had no contact with me personally.

She’d flatly declined choosing counselling/therapy. Throughout our wedding, we saw medical practioners, psychiatrists, psychologists and wedding counsellors.

Their persistent advice: If she’dn’t seek counselling beside me or alone, i will keep.

But i possibly couldn’t break my family up and felt some duty to maintain her.

I became the breadwinner that is sole focused on the monetary effect of divorce or separation. I additionally knew sharing custody will be a full time income hell, and so I remained, which jeopardized my real and health that is mental.

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